Saying No to Micro-Managing: What it Looks Like (for me)

saying no to micro managing

In these posts -- The Epic Job of Organising My Family & Organising Kids for School -- I talked about saying no to micro-managing.  The fact is, I like micro-managing.  It means I know where everything is, where everyone is at and I RULE MY WORLD AND EVERYONE ANSWERS TO ME! No, I'm not a control freak.  Who wants to know? Not wanting to micro-manage and not micro-managing are two different things. In the past, I used to micro-manage, a lot, … [Read more...]

The Small Blessings That Speak Truth

the little things that count

I wish I thought to take a picture of all the rubbish that came home in my children's bags on the last day of school. It was epic!  Think this picture below times at least 100.  This is just the remnants; the stuff that was salvageable. School is finished and I managed to get through the last couple of weeks.  I didn't get through gracefully, but the dreaded weeks are behind me.  When there are rough patches in family life, I often feel alone. … [Read more...]

I Didn’t Expect My Kids to Be My Heroes

my children are my heros

There's a narrow window of time when I am the hero to my children. I'm the one they look up to and the one they adore. This window of time: it's the trust in my new baby's eyes; it's in the very first smile; it's in the moment I discovered little feet in my high heel shoes. I guess this is expected when I am their world. I hope my children always have cause to look up to me but the hero factor does change as other people influence their life. … [Read more...]

Be Anchored by the Big Picture; Live in the Moment

big picture not

I don't want moments  to fly by with without me noticing them. That's what the Love the Moment Challenges are all about.  I've seen life change very quickly, and so moments are all we all have really.  I would love our family to be free to embrace moments but are neither controlled by them or in contrast, trapped by the big picture. I've been thinking about moments recently, and I see three main ways they can play out in our family life; I'm … [Read more...]

A Special Mother-Moment

After a hard week, it takes just one special moment to reinforce what a privilege it is to be a mother. You know those moment that take your breath away? Let me back track a little. My two older girls started training in Rhee Tae Kwon Do before I did. After watching for a few lessons, I wondered why I wasn't doing it with them. Rhee Tae Kwon Do is a wonderful family sport so I thought it might be a fun thing for us to do together. I asked the … [Read more...]

A Squeaky Wheel

REEEK, REEEK, REEEK, REEEK. Jolly pram. REEEK, REEEK, REEEK, REEEK. My feet hit the ground, falling in rhythm with the repetive screech of the pram wheel as I walked the short path to pick up my school children. I walked fast, as I like to do. Just up ahead, I saw a small grandma with a neat white bob, strolling beside a happy looking girl wearing red and white check pants. If I wasn't on such a get-to-school-and-back mission, I might … [Read more...]

I Don’t Want to Give My Kids Advice

wisdom not advice

 I don't want to give my kids advice, I want to impart wisdom. Advice:  a proposal for an appropriate course of action Wisdom: ability to apply knowledge or experience or understanding or common sense and insight Many will give my children's advice as they mature -- doctors, dentists, teachers, friends, colleagues -- but as a mother, I want to be different because I know and love them unconditionally. I want to offer my children something … [Read more...]

On Being Fallible & Giving My Kids the Chance to Shine

Allowing Kids to Shine

I have realised I don't have to be everything to my kids in order for them to thrive. Actually, trying to be everything can do quite the opposite, I believe. In my many, many moments of weakness, I see how capable my children are. I absolutely adore this picture of my amazing kids shining. When I'm sick... From a curled up position on the couch, the house still ticks away. Sure, not as efficiently or as well as I may like, but things … [Read more...]

My Daughter Insulted Me, And it Made Me Happy

loft bed for children

"Mum, can you come lie on my bed for a little while before I go to sleep? I just want to chat for a minute." It was my 10-year old daughter calling. I have to admit, I was tired, had just finished putting the children to bed, and I didn't feel like dragging out bedtime; I was absolutely desperate looking forward to some quiet moments to myself! However, I talked myself into it thought: this is an opportunity to chat with my pre-teen daughter and … [Read more...]

Don’t Try and Be the Mum You’re Not

Be the mum you are

She's so organised and seems to be able to keep her house beautifully neat. She's so hospitable and is always comfortable for people to visit her home. She always looks amazing. I don't know how she does it. She's so creative and thinks of cool things to do. She's so active and takes her kids everywhere. She's always so patient, gentle and kind. I've never heard her raise her voice. She's funny and makes everyone around her laugh. She … [Read more...]

The (not so serious) Serious Word

Captain-von-Trapp-whistle

Captain Von Trapp from Sound of Music was on to something when he used a whistle to give instructions to his children.  Gathering my children together to go somewhere can take me a good part of 10 minutes, and sometimes longer!  So I use a special word to call the kids. It's kind of a game but it works a treat when I need to give my children instruction before we head out somewhere. Here is the word: REPORT Yes, … [Read more...]

Words As Concepts

Words as Concepts

It wasn't exactly intentional, but over time, I noticed my use of certain words to describe concepts with the children. It's interesting to see how the repetitive use of these words/concepts have come full circle and now the kids encourage me with the same. I say things like: "use your imagination" "find something creative to do" "you made a discovery" "go on an adventure" "choose to be happy" "let's hope for something" Definition: form … [Read more...]

Treat Your Kids Without Spoiling Them

treat your kids without spoiling them

It's a balance: treating your kids without spoiling them. I love doing all kinds of special things for my children.  In saying that, I DO NOT want my children to become spoilt brats. Veruca Salt from Charlie and the Chocolate Factory comes to mind when I think of the words spoilt brat.  You know the song: "I want today, I want tomorrow; it's my bar of chocolate, give it to me now." A Veruca Salt is not what I hope for my children but, oh, I do … [Read more...]

Parenting and Personality

Eleanor Formaggio of Parent with Potential

This is a guest post from Eleanor Formaggio from Parent with Potential in response to this question: How do you raise a child according to their personality? Wow, what a great question, and to put this in words was incredibly difficult. I do know raising my children according to personality has made parenting more enjoyable and rewarding.  Parenting is more enjoyable because I parent according to their personality -- which means less time wasted … [Read more...]