When I’m Criticised as Parent

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I said to someone recently, "Parenting is one of those things I desperately want to be good at, but just can't, no matter how hard I try." Do you ever feel that way? But what does being a good parent mean?   Feeding Nurturing Providing Loving Teaching Encouraging Refining Edifying Inspiring What other ing words can I think of? If there was a nice flow chart manual for parents, that would be great.  This problem: look it up: … [Read more...]

Getting the washing done…

Washing Pile

Got home from holidays (which was wonderful) with dirty washing and hand-me-down clothes from my sister. Then one of my daughters had a camp. And then she came home, and all of a sudden my washing pile became a monster mountain.  I decided to put it all on the kitchen table to FORCE myself to LOOK AT IT and DEAL WITH IT. I have a pretty good system now to do the laundry and you can read about it here. However, with six people in the … [Read more...]

Connecting With My Teen (Through Books)

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In moments of waiting, you'll often find me with a book.  This is a recent thing. I like it. I love reading novels, but over the past...8 years or so...I haven't made time for it.  There are three main reasons for this: it's rare to have long chunks of quiet moments to digest a good book (the way I like to read); I find myself too tired at night; and reading articles on my phone is an easy and assessable distraction. But I am … [Read more...]

A small act of kindness is like a soft breeze

a small act of kindness is like a soft breeze on a hot day

This is a section of a diary entry I posted to Facebook a few months ago. This year has been full on for me and I've had to be intentional about looking for joy. Some days more than others.  I'm posting this little snippet of time here because I like to look back: to read, and remember. I like to remind myself about these little moments that have a redeeming quality about them. 8 May 2014: I feel weary tonight and am finding myself … [Read more...]

Domestic Disasters

Domestic Disasters

Just in case you were wondering what happens when you use regular dishwashing liquid in the dishwasher: This.   This is just one example of my many domestic disasters. Yeah, won't be doing that again when I run out of tablets. What WAS I thinking?! Not my brightest moment. I've burnt tea towels, mistook cornflour for icing sugar, used bleach on a lamanex sink counter (which turns it yellow) and then there was this … [Read more...]

The Robot, The Superhero & The Person

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I had an enlightening conversation with my eldest child. It gave me a small insight into the parent/child relationship through the different stages. I've talked about parenting stages before, because it's important for me to know where I'm at in the journey so I can adjust my expectations accordingly. It was a Friday night and I felt weary at the end of a school week.  One of the kids had a sporting event on in the evening, so the kids and … [Read more...]

I Don’t Think the School Holidays Went Well…

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In the main, I enjoy the school holidays with the kids, but I'm relieved school is back. The holidays didn't go as I planned.  I like to organise a lot of day trips and outings; I like to make the time intentional, even if we don't go away for a proper family holiday. Now that the kids are back at school, I took a breath and the thought ran through my mind: I don't think the school holidays went well. I'm a high achiever.  I like to … [Read more...]

Disney and Pixar are Raising my Kids!

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Guest Post by Occupational Therapist, Nicole Grant Disney and Pixar are raising my kids, and I'm OK with that. My two children are pretty big fans of animated movies. Like most 5 and 6 year olds, they've more recently been waving their arms dramatically in the air, conjuring castles and sun-loving snowmen. There's been a lot of press lately about screen time, and while I am a huge advocate for 'green time', I am still quite OK with planting my … [Read more...]

When They Grow Up in a Second

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Do you know those times when you look at your child and it's like somehow they change into a grown-up version of themselves in an instant before your eyes? That.    From my vantage point on the sand on a lazy Saturday afternoon, I watched my son march up to me with purpose.  I gasped internally as he came closer because in those seconds, I got a glimpse the man he will become one day.  My son is my youngest child … [Read more...]

I’m a Tree; She’s a Bird

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"I feel scared about facing this week," I said to my husband yesterday. That sounds rather pathetic, especially when I write it down like that.  But it's true! I have this fear, anxiety you might call it.  Matt is away, which isn't unusual, but I am feeling so weary at the end of this school term. The kids are weary too, so right now, it's like the wheels are coming out from underneath me and ahead I picture myself with gravel rash on … [Read more...]

Hello Robot-Mode.

5:30am - Alarm I don't even beg the morning for more sleep. Swing my legs. Sit up. Walk to the stove top. Heat water for tea. Make lunches for school. "Good morning." "Hello love." "How did you sleep?" Hug the one that needs a lot of hugs. "Eat breakfast." "Get ready for school." "Yes, you have sport today." "Formal uniform for you, yes." "Is this enough lunch for you today?" "You can't play until you … [Read more...]

Making Big Dreams Happen (on a small scale)

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It's a story of a woman who made a dream happen but she did it on a small scale. I love that: it's something I aim to foster in my own life, especially amongst family life because it's easy to let go of dreams in the busyness instead of looking for opportunities to weave them into life in a sustainable way. This: Image credit: New York Times This story is about Sandra Foster.  She transformed a hunting cabin into the romantic Victorian … [Read more...]

The Case of the Broken Keyring

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I left home just before 7pm, I didn't start shopping until 8pm and the shops closed at 9pm.  I live 10 minutes from the supermarket by the way. I was hoping to get a good couple of hours to do Christmas shopping for the kids.  First hurdle was finding a park.  A matter of luck really: drive past someone who happened to be leaving.  After about 50 near misses, I scored a park. I did a little happy jig in my car seat. Power-walking myself to the … [Read more...]