What a little bird taught me…

November 18, 2011

{Pet Cockatiel}

what a little bird taught me

The Love the Moment Challenge for November is about greeting my loved ones with a big smile. I find it easier to be exuberant with my kids than my husband.  There are two main reason for this. Firstly, my children’s well-being is constantly on my mind (and much of my responsibility) so making an effort weighs heavily on me.  Secondly, my husband usually comes home at the end of the day when I’m tired and feeling feral and trying to get all the kids in bed, so it’s more of a challenge. However, I am making the effort to greet him with a big smile and kiss when he comes home. In the midst of raising children I don’t want to forget to invest in our marriage.

{Our Wedding Day}

investing in my marriage

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What a little bird taught me…

It was after 7pm and I was nagging encouraging the children to brush their teeth.   I had a headache.  I couldn’t wait for the kids to be in bed so I could sit in quiet with a cup of tea.  I listened to our bird sing before I heard the familiar sound of wheels crunching the rocks on the driveway. Our bird always anticipates the husband’s arrival with excited squeaks. Without fail, he churps an happy greeting, right from when the car drives up until Matt walks through the door.  Our bird consistently shows more excitement at my husband’s homecoming than I do! I’m always happy to see my husband but I feel tempted to greet him with a list of issues I’ve had that day or with, “Here! The kids are all yours!”

The kids got to him before I did. “D–A–D–D–Y!” I watched my husband interact with them and felt grateful for a wonderful father for my children.  After the initial onslaught, I gave my husband a big hug and kiss (as has become my custom for November). This month, we will celebrate 12 years of marriage. 12 years, 4 kids, 10 moves and a whole lot of highs and lows.

Matty and I, we’ve learned a lot in our 12 years of marriage.  I know how much my husband needs respect and comfort. My husband knows I need verbal affirmation and understanding. He helps me around the house (and with the kids) as much as he can and I respect his work and offer comfort and love when he comes home. This partnership is a two way street. It’s about learning to communicate our respective needs, making the choice to put eachother’s needs above our own and pulling together as a team based on love and trust.  This relationship is a beautiful thing but it’s easy to overlook it as we parent and get caught up in the busyness of life.  Then cracks form.

{12 years married and counting}

investing in my marriage

Later that night Matt said, “Thank you for being so lovely when I come home. I really appreciate it.”

Just the other day he said, “You always look beautiful when I come home. Thank you.”

And I recently received this text message from him.

investing in my marriage

* I did check with my husband before writing about these conversations.

A little bird taught me what it is to be consistent with happy greetings. A happy greeting: it’s only a little thing but these small consistent things build something strong overtime.  Invest in the moments that matter; this is one of them for me.

What a little bird taught me: Invest in the Moments that matter.

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LucyNo Gravatar November 18, 2011 at 5:30 pm

It’s so interesting. Knowing what each other needs. I try and be lovely and loving when A comes home. He doesn’t notice. But if I try and blog or am on the phone when we finally have the evening to ourselves, I know it shits him. He wants quality time and me on the couch.

Kel, have you read the Five Languages of Love, by Gary Chapman? You would LOVE it.

12 years. Well done! xx

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Kelly Be A Fun MumNo Gravatar November 18, 2011 at 6:01 pm

Ha ha. Love it. It pays to know and understanding eachother doen’t it.

Yes I have read it. I enjoyed it.

Sometime I only notice how much something means to us when it’s not there. I find that especially true with Mum being gone. You see all the little moment that add up to something so very special and valuable to your life. In the same way, I hope that even if the kids don’t notice, or take if for granted, it will still matter…you know?

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JanetNo Gravatar November 19, 2011 at 5:47 pm

It’s amazing what our cute little birds can teach us – I blogged about my cockatiel, Buddy, not long ago! http://footprintsaustralia.com/blog/2011/09/28/theres-no-buddy-like-him/

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AndreaNo Gravatar November 19, 2011 at 8:46 pm

Lovely post – I needed to read this to remind me that’s this marriage thing is not all about me!!

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KrisNo Gravatar November 20, 2011 at 3:17 pm

Great post and so wonderful to know other couples so sweet after a long time together :) I can safely say I have a delicious marriage and it’s fantastic :)

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katepickleNo Gravatar November 20, 2011 at 3:58 pm

As always you are spot on….

This was on my list of things I didn’t want to regret… not taking time to love and be loved by my husband :)

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