Comments on: Workhouse or Housework http://beafunmum.com/2010/04/workhouse-or-housework/ Love the Moment Mon, 21 May 2012 12:33:41 +0000 hourly 1 By: shelly http://beafunmum.com/2010/04/workhouse-or-housework/comment-page-1/#comment-939 shelly Fri, 09 Apr 2010 22:42:07 +0000 http://beafunmum.com/?p=2301#comment-939 I try to keep it simple. On a clean up day, usually Sat I put up 6 jobs on the white board with a blank spot for the kids to sign up. I have three boys at home (7,11,15). They each have to pick two. First up gets the best choices, thats usually my youngest - Timmy. Having some ownership to the job I thnk helps. I try to keep it simple. On a clean up day, usually Sat I put up 6 jobs on the white board with a blank spot for the kids to sign up. I have three boys at home (7,11,15). They each have to pick two. First up gets the best choices, thats usually my youngest – Timmy. Having some ownership to the job I thnk helps.

]]> By: Sarah http://beafunmum.com/2010/04/workhouse-or-housework/comment-page-1/#comment-926 Sarah Fri, 09 Apr 2010 06:55:03 +0000 http://beafunmum.com/?p=2301#comment-926 Great post Kelly (as usual :)) Thanks so much for the link too! x Great post Kelly (as usual :) ) Thanks so much for the link too! x

]]> By: nellsbells http://beafunmum.com/2010/04/workhouse-or-housework/comment-page-1/#comment-925 nellsbells Fri, 09 Apr 2010 04:32:40 +0000 http://beafunmum.com/?p=2301#comment-925 I love reading all your comments peoples! Thanks for your perspective. Kelly I love reading all your comments peoples! Thanks for your perspective.

Kelly

]]> By: Meeya http://beafunmum.com/2010/04/workhouse-or-housework/comment-page-1/#comment-910 Meeya Tue, 06 Apr 2010 05:22:11 +0000 http://beafunmum.com/?p=2301#comment-910 So great Kell! Thanks for sharing! I think my almost 4 missy is ready for this yay! Will print them all off now :) Kate, I hope the move goes well for you and that your little man is great help! He seems to already be doing so well! And great to see a Dad on here! Thank you for sharing your thoughts Colin. So this is just my opinion based on how I was raised and am attempting to raise my 3. And I completely agree with you Kell - each family has it's own system and is entitled to their own opinion :) I think a reward system can be good if doing jobs outside everyday living chores. For example, washing windows each holiday (something I grew up doing and getting pocket money for!). But as for making the bed, putting dirty clothes in the basket, etc., they are skills for life that we as humans just have to learn. Rewarding them with praise and the satisfaction of accomplishing something for themselves, instills valuable qualities. So with my children, I have tried to set a foundation of tidiness/cleanliness from even younger than 1 of 'when you're done with something you put it away' before you get out your next toy/activity. Granted, some days you have the 'We'll just pick it all up once at the end of the day' mentality like if you're in and out of the house or have friends over - but at the end of the day, it's all together. But something so simple as this from such a young age, makes later on not seem so daunting when more tasks are introduced. Love that we can share and discuss on your blog Kell. Thank you xo So great Kell! Thanks for sharing! I think my almost 4 missy is ready for this yay! Will print them all off now :)

Kate, I hope the move goes well for you and that your little man is great help! He seems to already be doing so well!

And great to see a Dad on here! Thank you for sharing your thoughts Colin.
So this is just my opinion based on how I was raised and am attempting to raise my 3. And I completely agree with you Kell – each family has it’s own system and is entitled to their own opinion :)

I think a reward system can be good if doing jobs outside everyday living chores. For example, washing windows each holiday (something I grew up doing and getting pocket money for!). But as for making the bed, putting dirty clothes in the basket, etc., they are skills for life that we as humans just have to learn. Rewarding them with praise and the satisfaction of accomplishing something for themselves, instills valuable qualities.

So with my children, I have tried to set a foundation of tidiness/cleanliness from even younger than 1 of ‘when you’re done with something you put it away’ before you get out your next toy/activity. Granted, some days you have the ‘We’ll just pick it all up once at the end of the day’ mentality like if you’re in and out of the house or have friends over – but at the end of the day, it’s all together. But something so simple as this from such a young age, makes later on not seem so daunting when more tasks are introduced.

Love that we can share and discuss on your blog Kell. Thank you xo

]]> By: The Original SuperParent http://beafunmum.com/2010/04/workhouse-or-housework/comment-page-1/#comment-896 The Original SuperParent Mon, 05 Apr 2010 14:15:38 +0000 http://beafunmum.com/?p=2301#comment-896 My son is still quite young at 8, but can see that we are all a team. If my wife and I are busy clearing up stuff, it means we've got less direct time for him. I would like to see him assume more work around the house as he grows up. But the truth is if I tip the balance and give him too much work, he'll resent it ... children just find it hard to understand why we need to such menial work until they either 1) take ownership and are house proud, or 2) are just fastidious about cleanliness and orderliness (Wills is a little like this). There might be some value in introducing an incentive for the tick sheet you've come up with -- a line of tick boxes at the base, once completed allows the child a budget to buy something they'd like. :-) Colin My son is still quite young at 8, but can see that we are all a team. If my wife and I are busy clearing up stuff, it means we’ve got less direct time for him. I would like to see him assume more work around the house as he grows up.

But the truth is if I tip the balance and give him too much work, he’ll resent it … children just find it hard to understand why we need to such menial work until they either 1) take ownership and are house proud, or 2) are just fastidious about cleanliness and orderliness (Wills is a little like this).

There might be some value in introducing an incentive for the tick sheet you’ve come up with — a line of tick boxes at the base, once completed allows the child a budget to buy something they’d like. :-)

Colin

]]> By: Julie http://beafunmum.com/2010/04/workhouse-or-housework/comment-page-1/#comment-880 Julie Sun, 04 Apr 2010 07:16:14 +0000 http://beafunmum.com/?p=2301#comment-880 Thanks for the link Kelly. I love the "B-team" concept. We have friends with older children than us (eldest is in high-school), who always make a big deal about being the "H_ family" (e.g. "the H's do it this way", "this is the H's fun day" etc). I always thought that was a great idea to help build a sense of family identity and belonging, and now, reflecting on your post, I see it also helps to build a sense of family responsibility. I like the idea of the room chart and I think my daughter will too as she gets a little older (I think she is very similar to her mummy in liking routine and order - so far at least). I'll have to wait and see what my son is like. Thanks for the link Kelly.
I love the “B-team” concept. We have friends with older children than us (eldest is in high-school), who always make a big deal about being the “H_ family” (e.g. “the H’s do it this way”, “this is the H’s fun day” etc). I always thought that was a great idea to help build a sense of family identity and belonging, and now, reflecting on your post, I see it also helps to build a sense of family responsibility.

I like the idea of the room chart and I think my daughter will too as she gets a little older (I think she is very similar to her mummy in liking routine and order – so far at least). I’ll have to wait and see what my son is like.

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